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179+ (Interesting) Questions To Get To Know Someone Better [Updated]

11/8/2022

 
questions to get to know someone
​Questions are a great way to start a conversation at a barbecue, a Zoom networking event, or a party.

Questions can even help you move past small talk and into deeper topics. (Which studies suggest could make you happier!)

If you’ve ever struggled with thinking up questions to get to know someone better, this post is for you! 

After your conversational partner responds, keep the conversation going by making an observation about what they said.

Look through the list below and copy/paste 5 of your favorite questions into the notes app on your phone.

Then, you’ll be all set to break the ice at your next social event!

Bonus Pro-tip: Check out this massive list of 300+ conversation starters and topics or this huge list of 170+ icebreaker questions if you need help sparking conversations!

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How To Throw A Party That People Will Love (With Nick Gray)

6/17/2022

 
How To Throw A Party
Do you want to make more friends, build your network, and throw parties that make people say “I can’t WAIT for the next one!”? 

My guest Nick Gray is here to show you how to throw a party that people will LOVE! 

He’s sharing secrets straight from his book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How throwing a cocktail party will expand your network.
  • How to get 90% attendance at your party.
  • When/how to send out reminders.
  • Why guest name tags are crucial.
  • What days of the week to throw a party. (It's not what you think)
  • Why you don’t need chairs at your party.
  • How to gracefully end a party.

About Nick:
Nick Gray is an investor, entrepreneur, and author. He’s also a 40-year old American man living in Austin, Texas.

​Nick started and sold two successful companies: Flight Display Systemsand Museum Hack. Over 75,000 people have watched his TEDx talk about why he hates most museums.

He’s the author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step handbook that teaches you how to build big relationships by hosting small gatherings.

Nick’s links:
  • Book: The 2-Hour Cocktail Party.
  • Nick's "Friends Newsletter". (Highly recommended!)
  • Article: How to Host a Happy Hour.
  • Article: How to Plan a Networking Event.​​

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Confident Conversations: How To Join & Enjoy Any Conversation

10/25/2018

 
CONFIDENT CONVERSATIONS
Wouldn't it be awesome to know you could walk into any conference, event or happy hour and have confident conversations with any person you meet?

I know my readers do...

"I’d love to feel confident in social situations and know that I can carry conversations." 
​What's funny to me is how most people approach getting better.

What most people do: 

1. Wing it.
2. Don't improve.
3. Wonder why they don't improve...probably eat Cheetos.
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What top performers do:

1. Get barely enough information.
2. Don't overthink it.
3. Act rapidly.

When you're learning how to communicate with confidence, it's crucial to take action quickly. The great thing about people skills is that you get plenty of chances to practice.

Let's talk about a time where I wasn't a top performer...

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How To Start And End Conversations With Anyone [A Quick & Easy Guide]

10/7/2018

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Have you ever been at a conference, a cookout, or a networking event and you felt that twinge that says "You should talk to that person".

At this point, like a split in the road we have two choices:

A. Check your instagram for the 231st time today.

B. Start that conversation.

When we meet new people, we get to expand our circle of people. This could lead to a business partnership, a new best friend, or a new client. But you'll never know unless you open your mouth.

There’s a phrase my mentor likes to say:

“90% of the work is done before you enter the room.”

It’s easier to start a conversation after you’ve had a successful conversation.

But how do you start those conversations?

Enter Conversational Muscle Memory.

Conversational Muscle Memory is built on the idea that when you start small, low-stakes conversations throughout your day, it's easier to start more conversations because you’ve built momentum.

Once you’ve built that momentum, it’ll be easier to start a conversation with that one person you really want to talk to at happy hour.

I explain more in this video:

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How To Level Up Your Social Confidence With Myke Macapinlac

5/9/2018

 
Myke Macapinlac Podcast
On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery. (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram)

BMC Radio is 
the podcast where I have conversations with people skill, charisma, networking, and persuasion experts.

​I then gleam glorious 
mindsets, skillsets, and tactics from them, and then serve them to you on a podcast shaped silver platter.
Myke is a really interesting guy, he was born in Asia, move to the Middle East, then landed in Canada at age 16 while not being able to speak English.

Myke had to start from scratch with people skills. The customs of places he'd lived his entire life were suddenly reversed in a western country.

If you've wanted to level up your social confidence, make better first impressions, or network authentically at a conference this episode will be exactly what you need.

​More about Myke:

Myke Macapinlac was a shy immigrant who used to work a boring engineering job and became a talk show host, a social dynamics specialist, and a lifestyle entrepreneur.

He now teaches shy guys to develop social confidence so they can succeed in their personal, romantic, and professional lives.

His work has been featured in the Calgary Herald, on Breakfast Television, on Shaw TV, and in the Huffington Post.

Myke's Free Gift For BMC Listeners:

Shy to Social: How To Approach And Talk To Anybody No Matter How Shy You Are

Highlights:

  • 13:30 - How to overcome and reprogram negative self talk.
  • 21:00 - How to overcome the “I don’t want to be fake” self improvement objection.
  • 34:30 - How to leverage social media for conferences and events so that you can warm up the room before flying to the event.

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Toxic Jobs, Networking, and Burritos

8/6/2017

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(If you've ever wondered how to network, this post is going to make your day.)

But first, a quick story:

I was having dinner with a friend the other night at a Mexican place we've both loved for years.


As the hot plates of burritos and cold beers were delivered we started talking career strategy, like we typically do.

Then, a familiar topic cropped up.


He's not happy at his job.
Toxic Jobs, Networking, and Burritos

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How To Email Anyone And Get A Reply With Outreach Specialist Talia Koren

3/19/2017

 
Talia Koren Work Week Lunch
Let's face it.

We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've  hit the send button on this potentially life changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves:

"Should I have sent that? Was that a little too much?"

(Spoiler: YES, IT WAS TOO MUCH, NOW I WANT TO THROW MY LAPTOP LIKE A DISCUS INTO A LAKE)

I'm so selfishly excited about this episode of Become More Compelling Radio that I can barely contain myself.
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My guest Talia Koren (@thetalillama) and I talk about how to reach out to influencers in a way that respects their time and makes it 10x more likely that you'll receive a response.

Talia is the founder of the popular meal prep business Work Week Lunch. (Since this epidsode was recorded, Work Week Lunch has been featured in The New York Times, Prevention, and many more.)

To businesses trying to leverage influencers to build brand awareness: do your research, personalize your message, make it a win/win and add a link to your product... otherwise just get ignored and waste your time

TL/DR: don’t be lazy pic.twitter.com/T69IDAI73o

— Talia Koren (@workweeklunch) January 19, 2020
Before starting WWL, Talia was a recruiter for contributing writers at Elite Daily and a staff writer herself on the entertainment, news and health teams.

The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life.

​Learn it and use it. 
This skill is especially helpful if you want to:
  • Earn media to get your side business off the ground.
  • Get a new job in a new field.
  • Reach out to an expert and ask for advice.

In this episode you'll learn: 
12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead.
24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers.
41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS)
51:10 - An incredibly easy way to get busy people on the phone. 

Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard  media pitches.

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