How To Level Up Your Social Confidence With Myke Macapinlac

5/9/2018

On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery. (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram)

BMC Radio is the podcast where I have conversations with people skill, charisma, networking, and persuasion experts.

I then gleam glorious mindsets, skillsets, and tactics from them, and then serve them to you on a podcast shaped silver platter.

Myke is a really interesting guy, he was born in Asia, move to the Middle East, then landed in Canada at age 16 while not being able to speak English.

Myke had to start from scratch with people skills. The customs of places he'd lived his entire life were suddenly reversed in a western country.

If you've wanted to level up your social confidence, make better first impressions, or network authentically at a conference this episode will be exactly what you need.

More about Myke:

Myke Macapinlac was a shy immigrant who used to work a boring engineering job and became a talk show host, a social dynamics specialist, and a lifestyle entrepreneur.

He now teaches shy guys to develop social confidence so they can succeed in their personal, romantic, and professional lives.

His work has been featured in the Calgary Herald, on Breakfast Television, on Shaw TV, and in the Huffington Post.

Myke's Free Gift For BMC Listeners:

Shy to Social: How To Approach And Talk To Anybody No Matter How Shy You Are

Highlights:

13:30 - How to overcome and reprogram negative self talk.
21:00 - How to overcome the “I don’t want to be fake” self improvement objection.
34:30 - How to leverage social media for conferences and events so that you can warm up the room before flying to the event.

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Show Notes & Links:

04:40 - Myke’s origin story. Immigrating from Canada from Saudi Arabia.
07:59 - Video: How to fix resting bitch face.
08:40 - The Like Switch by John Schafer.
09:19 - Key components of making a great first impression. (link to Myke’s book: Killer First Impressions: How to Be More Charismatic, Stylish and Likable.)
11:40 - How to take action without overthinking.
12:06 - Books: 33 Strategies of War by Robert Green & Boyd: The Fighter Pilot That Changed The Art Of War.
13:30 - How to overcome and reprogram negative self talk.
19:00 - Why increasing your style can dramatically increase the quality of your first impressions.
21:00 - How to overcome the “I don’t want to be fake” self improvement objection.
24:00 - How to watch out for self-improvement blind spots.
27:50 - The social spillover effect. Once you become more socially confident, it affects every area of your life.
29:20 - Go to social events that you WANT to go to. (You’ll have better outcomes)
32:35 - How to be socially confident at conferences.
33:15 - How to use social momentum. (Start small conversations!)
34:30 - How to leverage social media for conferences and events so that you can warm up the room before flying to the event.
36:50 - How to use social media to amplify your off-line social presence and reach.
40:10 - Taking action vs. consuming information. Just in time learning.
42:25 - Motion vs. Action James Clear.
43:26 - How to reach out to people effectively over email.
46:35 - How to build rapport by looking for “me too” moments.
46:50 - How to avoid falling into interview mode and asking too many questions.
48:15 - How to never run out of things to say by using the SPOKES method.
49:50 - Myke’s text to the world: Put your phone down. Look around and start a conversation with someone.
52:58 - Myke’s free resource for BMC listeners: Shy to Social: How To Approach And Talk To Anybody No Matter How Shy You Are

Challenge For You: Positive Self Talk

What's ONE thing you like or appreciate about yourself? Comment below!