What was the biggest reason you wanted coaching.  What did you hope to learn?‍

I wanted to get coaching to really develop my confidence in being able to better respond, better communicate and just better express my thoughts and perspective when it comes to social settings.  

In work how do I be more compelling, how do I be more persuasive, how do I better encourage banter so that we have better opportunities to have a better relationship with the people I'm working with are just a few examples, and I came across Become More Compelling and just pretty much knew from the get go, it seemed like with my experience it would definitely help me."

‍What would you say is the most important thing you have learned with coaching?‍

One of the most important things I took away is being consistent and even if it is a small action or small task, making it part of your daily or weekly habit to apply has been probably the biggest reason that I have seen so much confidence in my development and improvement of my social skills.  So, keeping that in my mind, doing a bit every day really helps you get the hang of it. Without that I don't think I would be able to say, look these are my tools I have learned and can apply without having that regular discipline to apply them."

‍Talk a little bit about how life is different after coaching.  What sort of wins can you share?

Before coming into coaching. I was very or pretty much your classic sitting at the back or in this case putting yourself on mute in the back of a meeting and just listen, and not really getting a chance to contribute, not knowing how to contribute, and always feeling lost in the conversation.

But from coaching and from the tools I got from Become More Compelling the whole situation has flipped. I am actually initiating conversations in meetings. I am getting to throw my ideas out and expressing them in a way that my teammates understand, can emphasize and can also then come to agree or share another viewpoint and that just helps us bounce ideas, and meetings now become so much more productive, and I am feeling that I am making a meaningful contribution just from being able to better centralize and express myself in this context.

I am much more confident as I've got this new found, as you said competence, in my ability to do social activities and handle myself in social conversations and contact videos."

‍What would you tell someone who is considering getting private coaching from me?

I would say just understand where your, commitments and time availability are because coaching does require an investment on your part equally as much as it is for the coach. So getting the chance to say I can devote some time every day or some time every week to actually apply what you want is super important. Number one, understand what's your availability and can you actually invest the time needed to contribute to make a difference.

The second thing that comes to mind is if someone says, hey, is coaching something for me is understand this: it is also your learning process as well and not necessarily every single answer from your coach.

​It is very much like a two way running highway where as much as your figuring out your contributing and having your coach as a sounding board and also discuss through ideas so I think that is really important to set that idea or expectation that it is not every single answer is going to be there just that very much you who figure things along the way and problems solved together to kind of address any problems or situations you will find yourself in with your social skills.

‍Julia, I have enjoyed having you as a client immensely. I appreciate you taking a couple of minutes and sharing your experience.‍Thank you.  

It has been such an amazing and such a highlight I would say to my year getting the chance to upgrade my confidence in those social skills.  You really helped me, Jeff!