I have this friend named Josh. He's what you'd call a social skills natural.
When he walks into a room, it's as if he emits a magnetic pulse, and people literally gravitate toward him.
It's uncanny. I'm 99.9% sure he's an X-Man.
In the span of three minutes he's already circulated the room, cracked a few jokes, shook a few hands. Everyone is ecstatic to see him.
You probably have people like Josh in your life.
Perhaps, as you watch them work a room, you ask yourself: "How the f*ck do they do that?"
The answer might surprise you. (Hint: they weren't born with it.)
We're going to talk more about that in a moment, but first, watch this video where I talk about what it really means to be a natural:
In that video, I talked about how I learned to keep my hands out of my pockets using office supplies. (and look super awesome while doing it)
If you see me now, you'll notice that I never put my hands in my pockets. Now, I'm a natural.
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Behavior Roadmap: The Four Stages Of Competence
Some people learn early, others learn later.
As you improve your social skills, it's important to remember that we're all at our own levels of competence.
Here's the model (and my pocket hands as an example).
When you get to unconscious competence, people will look at you and ask themselves "How the f*ck do you do that?"
For more on habit creation, check out Dr. BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits. (Why I now floss 3x per day)
What do you remember thinking to yourself as you watched someone who had incredible social skills?
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