When we hear “love language quiz” or “language of love quiz” we might think about romantic relationships... and, sure, learning about them can definitely help you in your romantic relationship.
But what about all the other relationships in your life?
Real talk: Everyone communicates differently!
Some people may love receiving a thoughtful gift, while others would rather just spend quality time together.
The 5 love languages can help build better relationships at work and with friends.
The big key is to talk about what your language is, and find out what theirs is too!
The first step is answering the question, “What is my love language?,” and this quick love language test will teach you (and any friends you’d like to share it with) just that!
Take the quiz here:
What are the 5 Love Languages anyway?
The five love languages were made popular by Gary Chapman, a counselor and author who penned the book “The Five Love Languages” in 1992, which became a bestseller in 2009 and has remained on the New York Times best seller list since.
The full title included “How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate,” but aside from maybe “physical touch,” the other info is very relevant to any sort of human interaction.
Here is a closer look at each of the five, and how they can relate to any and all relationships:
Here’s a look at each of the 5 Love Languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
Feeling loved is as good as… feeling loved! Words of affirmation are how we express gratitude, appreciation, and, yes, love for someone. In the workplace this can mean a simple “great job in that meeting yesterday,” which can be an enormous motivator for some personality types.
You also may have friends who really like hearing the words, “I love you,” and some who balk at it.
Discussing how your friends and colleagues feel about words of affirmation can help you all motivate each other, and also help avoid awkward situations.
2. Quality Time
Quality time is not sitting in a meeting. In fact, two people could spend an entire month together and not share a moment of quality time.
For people who need quality time as determined by the love language quiz, this means a one-on-one setting where they can have someone’s full attention and really talk deeply and bond.
Bonding can be about pasts, about tasks at work, or really about anything, as long as the setting is warm and comfortable and the person who needs the quality time is able to speak and learn with ease.
3. Physical Touch
This one certainly trends heavily towards the romance side of things, but even a nice friend hug or high five can go a long way for some individuals who seek out physical touch as their primary love language.
On the other hand, there are a lot of people who consider an email as close to physical contact as they’re comfortable with, and this, too, is often unknown without a discussion regarding the five love languages.
4. Acts of Service
An act of service, as far as it relates to the love language quiz, is simply doing something for someone because you want to.
Have you ever shoveled out your neighbor’s car when it snowed, just because you like them? That’s an act of service.
Some people need to perform acts of service in order to feel a level of worthiness from whomever the service is for, and others need to receive them in order to maintain a belief that a given person does care for them.
5. Receiving Gifts
Some people like receiving gifts as a form of confirmation of love or appreciation. This aligns with acts of service, as well.
This doesn’t (generally) mean, however, that a given person needs to be showered with material things all day to feel loved.
If a friend or a colleague is someone who is validated by gifts, things as small as a cup of coffee or even a note of appreciation can go a very long way with keeping them confident and motivated.
Learn You Love Language: Take this Free Love Language Quiz
Bottom line: Knowing your love language can help you communicate to other how you like to be communicated with.
The 5 love languages quiz (free) in this article will set you up with knowledge you can use in all parts of your life.
No matter what kind of relationship you’re looking to improve, knowing your language can lead to…
Take the free language of love quiz here:
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