How To Conquer Your Inner Fears and Start a Conversation With Anyone

One of the most common social skills questions I get is: 

"How do I start a conversation?!"

It's not rocket science, but it's about as terrifying as being strapped to a rocket.

To answer this question, I brought in an expert: the magnetic Felicia of Instantly Irresistible.

She's the real deal, and she created a video on how to conquer your inner fears and start a conversation with anyone.

Her gazes have been known to bring puppies back to life.

Also, she has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers. BOOM.

Enter Felicia:

I remember after reading Neil Strauss’s famous book, The Game, I was fascinated by this idea of ‘approach anxiety’. 

It’s typically what a lot of men feel as they are about to approach women -- a tightness in their chest, sweating, and of course, the prominent fear of being rejected.

But what I realized is that ‘approach anxiety’ is not limited to just men. Women feel it, too! And even I experience it myself--and this is what I help people with for a living. When I’m at an event and see a stranger I want to start talking to, my heart starts beating faster, I become self-conscious, and I start to think: “What am I going to SAY?”

But the point isn’t to not feel fear or nervousness when you approach new people. It’s that you feel it, but you know exactly what you’re going to do and exactly what you’ll say to ensure a successful interaction. 

Because I realized myself that the reason why I met my fiancee and some of my closest friends is because I let myself feel fear, but approach them anyway. In fact, just knowing that meeting the right stranger could change my life is what nudges me out my comfort zone time and time again. 

But what are the strategies and techniques YOU can use to get more of what you want out of your every-day interactions -- whether it’s a stranger at a bus stop, someone you want to get to know at your job, or a potential new friend at a social event?

In this video, I show you 3 strategies you can use to approach ANYONE, and one of my favorite techniques I’ve used on dozens of clients to always know how to keep the conversation going. 

Action Steps:

Felicia is a charisma and leadership coach who helps leaders master their personal communication, develop charisma, and be better leaders. On her blog, she helps ambitious, smart men and women master the art of social skills, personal magnetism, and persuasion at work and in their personal lives with information products. 

---

• Try just ONE of the ‘Approach Strategies’ we talked about on 1 person today
  
  
• Use the ‘Child-Like Wonder Technique’ to keep the conversation going. What did you discover?

I also have a free gift just for Become More Compelling Readers, which you can get here.


Jeff: Told you she was the real deal. Now go conquer!

She’s also the author of the book, Selling for Success. She’s been featured in Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, KISSmetrics, Entrepreneur on Fire, The Lifestyle Architects, Mind Body Green, Under 30 CEO, Elephant Journal, Set Your Mark, and many more.