Get The Friends You Want With Paul Sanders

On this episode of BMC Radio, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills I have my friend Paul Sanders (@PaulSandersSCP) from Get The Friends You Want.

Paul Sanders is a friendship & social skills coach, and author of the "Get The Friends You Want" book. He helps people overcome social hesitation, master conversation and social skills, make friends and build a social circle. 

In an age where human connection seems to be tipping more screen than face, I think honing your friendship skills is only getting more important, especially if you're working remote, or starting a business and don't have the traditional 9-5 office culture to fall back on.

In this conversation, we talk about how to build a friendship circle, how to easily connect and build rapport with many different types of people, books on social dynamics, and much more.

Free gift for BMC listeners:

7 Most Common Mistakes Peoples People Make When They Try To Improve Their Social Life (And How To Avoid Them)

Highlights:

• 11:45 - Paul’s advice on how to make friends and build a friendship circle.
• 25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills.
• 28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people.

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Show Notes & Links

03:35 - Paul’s origin story.
09:40  - Book Mentioned:Vagabonding by Rolf Potts.
09:40 -5 Travel Lessons You Can Use at Home 
10:59 - Mindsets follow action.
11:45 - Paul’s advice for building a friendship circle.
13:51 - Paul’s skills for friendship.
14:05 - How to feel at home wherever you are.
15:30 - The power of meetup.com.
17:50 - How to stop social hesitation.
19:39 - Why it’s important to focus on action. 
21:00 - What to small talk about after you meet someone new.
25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills.
28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people.
36:45 - Books Mentioned: Adult Friendship, The Social Animal, and Never Eat Alone 
39:15 - Crucial points of friendship, building rapport, and hook points.
44:30 - How to cultivate a strong personality and values.
54:30 - Paul’s free gift for BMC Radio listeners: 7 Most Common Mistakes Peoples People Make When They Try To Improve Their Social Life (And How To Avoid Them)