Charisma Expert Felicia Spahr: Group Conversations, Creating Rapport, and Getting Digits

On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr.

Felicia has been featured in INC, Fast Company, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepreneur on Fire, Mind, Body, Green, and many others.

I love this conversation for so many reasons. After listening to this episode you will be able to:

• Craft an amazing introduction (10:00)

"A good principle to remember is: Don't give people a reason to walk away." - Fel

• Focus on the right things during group conversations (15:40)

• Create rapport during one-on-one conversations (38:02)

• Know how and when to exchange contact information (46:20)

It's basically a tactical guide to thrive at your next dinner party, conference, or networking event.

Also check out Fel’s free audio program for BMC readers: 3 Magic Hooks To Create Instant Rapport With Anyone You Meet 

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Show Notes & Links

Action Step: Let's Practice Introductions...

In the comments below, let's practice our introductions. Remember to avoid jargon, and job titles that no one understands.

Basic formula: "I help X do Y so that Z."

Here's mine: I help people maximize their social skills and charisma so that they can be more influential, and have more compelling social lives.

Comment below with your introduction!

03:40 Fel describes how she uncovered her charisma (Book mentioned: Blink)
05:50 Fel’s family influences on charisma
10:00 Crafting a great introduction
15:12 #PleaseDontWalkAwayFromAwkwardPeople
15:40 How to approach a group conversation. What to focus on.
20:30 Why you should avoid stop words
23:25 The “secret” level of charisma: making yourself comfortable
26:25 Fel’s pain practice
30:10 Dealing with impostor syndrome
32:55 How to create an internally charismatic state
36:42 The best way to warm up before a social interaction (See my post: Conversational Muscle Memory)
38:02 How to have a great one-on-one conversation
46:20 How and when to exchange contact information
51:30 Fel’s free audio program: 3 Magic Hooks To Create Instant Rapport With Anyone You Meet 

And of course...here are the two pictures we discussed. Yes, that is my cat. Yes, I am weird.

Next Step:

In this podcast we learned about crafting introductions, group conversations, creating rapport, and getting contact information...

I want to give you a free guide to complement what you've learned in this podcast:

​Inside this guide, you'll learn...

➙ 3 Crucial components of making a fantastic first impression so that you can effortlessly meet new people even if you usually feel nervous around new people.

➙ Why compliments are secret weapons that will immediately connect you with other people. Most people go their whole lives without figuring this one thing out.
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➙ How to smoothly transition into small talk without feeling awkward. It's easier than you think, and it feels natural. If you miss this crucial step, it can easily derail a good conversation.

➙ Put it all together with a word-for-word script. See how each step fits together. (Feel free to steal this and star using it today)

​ I'd love to send you this free guide...just tell me where to email it. ➘