On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I have my friend Shawn McKibben, the founder of Simple Fellow where he helps ambitious introverts communicate (and kick ass) in an extroverted world.
What I love about Shawn's advice is that he goes DEEP.
0% Fluff. (Which I hate)
For a great primer on Shawn's work, read this article on revealing your authentic self.
In this conversation we talk about the power of revealing your authentic self, how superhero costumes at Comic Con can improve your confidence, and we play a really awesome improv game that you can start using today to have better conversations.
Shawn also has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers: An Introvert’s Guide to Engaging Conversation.
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Show Notes & Links
8:45 -Shawn tells the origin story of Simple Fellow and why he wants to help people.
13:43 -Revealing your authentic self, and realizing that your reality is yours alone.
14:40 -The stories we tell ourselves (aren't always true)
20:12 -The power of Comic Con and Superhero costumes.
24:14 -The importance of Conversational Muscle Memory.
27:37 -What happens when you're a little too awesome at conferences.
33:10 - James Altucher: Master of vulnerability.
35:27 - Bill Clinton's reality distortion field. (Example: 1992 Presidential debate, pay attention to Clinton's body language at 2:30)
38:00 -How to move from small talk to deeper conversations. (Hint: Stories)
40:01 -Jeff talks about his LOOp method: Listen, Observation, Open-Ended Question
43:29 -Box Breathing.
45:49 -Garbage Truck (See: Louis CK Garbage scene)
46:41 -Shawn's free gift for Become More Compelling readers: The Introvert's Guide to Engaging Conversation.
47:20 -The "Yes, and..." technique (Use this to have better conversations)
54:25 -How Shawn met his wife.
Action Step & Homework:
• What happened when you used it?
• Did it make the conversation easier?