In this (solo) episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'll give you frameworks for...
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(Or maybe just by consistently pushing past your comfort zone.)
This episode is geared towards the fellas. (Although I believe there are valuable insights for everyone) Dave has spent the last decade improving himself in the areas of people skills, fitness, and style.
He's gone from shy and reserved to authentically confident and now he helps men in their 20s and 30s do the same.
Dave is the Amazon #1 best-selling author of Ready to Roar: How Shy, Quiet, Self-Doubting Guys Become Strong, Charming, Self-Confident Men and the founder of IrreverentGent.com, a blog dedicated to helping guys build confidence.
His work has been featured in The Good Men Project, Well Built Style and Active Man magazine, among others.
It's not just a blown nose tire. I bet we don't even have landing gear.
This is it.
This is how I die.
You're probably familiar with Zack's work if you've ever watched shows like Burn Notice, Glee, and Empire. He's an editor by trade, so he knows all about grueling 12+ hour days sitting in front of a computer.
About 10 years ago, Zack decided that he would stop treating his body like a Ford Pinto, and start treating it like a Ferrari. This journey led him to spend over $75,000 and a decade optimizing his health so that he can constantly perform at a high level in his career and produce amazing work on demand.
Most of our jobs require us to be creative problem solvers. Zack will teach us how to protect our creativity like it's our number one asset.
Last night I was sitting on my couch watching Bob Ross on Youtube...like you do, and I stumbled across this video by Bob Ross' son Steve.
In this video, Ross gets super pumped about painting some mountains, and he messes up. (Side note: The mountains are still more beautiful that any mountains I've seen in real life.)
Before starting WWL, Talia was a recruiter for contributing writers at Elite Daily and a staff writer herself on the entertainment, news and health teams.
The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life.
Learn it and use it. This skill is especially helpful if you want to:
In this episode you'll learn:
12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead.
24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers.
41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS)
51:10 - An incredibly easy way to get busy people on the phone.
Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard media pitches.
Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others.
In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement.
If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you.
In this episode you'll learn:
You'll definitely want to grab Dan's free three video mini course on small talk (Including strategies on reducing nervousness) here.
1:00 PM On a Sunday afternoon, my wife and I arrived at the library, ready to get some work done.
1:02 PM We take the elevator up to the 5th floor, where they have study rooms, periodicals, and the quiet room. The quiet room is designed so that people can work and study in peace.
1:03 PM We settle into the quiet room, we’re the only two people there.
1:03:30 PM Thinking that the room was soundproof, and also wanting to make my wife laugh…I devise a (to me) hilarious plan to play 5 seconds of gangster rap.
1:04 PM I press play. My wife quoted me as whispering “This is what I think of your quiet room.”
• The #1 thing to focus on while telling stories. Hint: Tom Cruise (11:20)
• How to edit your stories down, but still keep the essence alive (17:30)
• How to deal with the “spotlight" of storytelling (42:15)
Be sure to check out the secret page Marsha created for BMC readers. (With a secret weapon to help you remember ANYONE'S name)
It's basically a tactical guide to thrive at your next dinner party, conference, or networking event.
Shawn has been featured in Mind, Body, Green, LifeHack, and Dumb Little Man. He has over 10 years experience teaching personal and career development.
In this conversation we talk about the power of revealing your authentic self, how superhero costumes at Comic Con can improve your confidence, and we play a really awesome improv game that you can start using today to have better conversations.
Shawn also has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers: An Introvert’s Guide to Engaging Conversation.
She's currently writing a book on introvert charisma that's due out on bookshelves next year. She's published over 200 articles on her blog, and she's been featured in Dr. Arnie Kozak's book The Everything Guide to the Introvert Edge and Patricia Weber's Introvert Communication Toolkit.
Meaning and purpose? Check.
She also has an awesome free gift for Become More Compelling readers: Alone But Not Lonely: 7 Steps To True Connection For Introverts.
In this conversation, we talk about why the word "should" can be toxic, and what to replace "should" with. We also talk about everything from meditation practices to zombie outbreaks.
Without further ado, enjoy episode number one of Become More Compelling Radio:
Also, she has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers. BOOM.
I remember after reading Neil Strauss’s famous book, The Game, I was fascinated by this idea of ‘approach anxiety’.
It’s typically what a lot of men feel as they are about to approach women -- a tightness in their chest, sweating, and of course, the prominent fear of being rejected.
But what I realized is that ‘approach anxiety’ is not limited to just men. Women feel it, too! And even I experience it myself--and this is what I help people with for a living. When I’m at an event and see a stranger I want to start talking to, my heart starts beating faster, I become self-conscious, and I start to think: “What am I going to SAY?”
I'll help you supercharge your people skills so that you can have a more fulfilling career,
business & social life.
Over the last 15 years, I’ve learned... (Read More)
• 8 Uncommon Tips To Make A Great First Impression
• The Ultimate Guide To Joining & Enjoying Group Conversations
• How to Never Run Out of Things to Say