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How To Unlock Authentic Confidence With Dave Bowden

2/4/2018

 
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden (@IrreverentGent) founder of Irreverent Gent.

In this episode  we tackle a crucial topic: Confidence.
  • What is it?
  • How do you get it?
  • How does it impact different areas of your life?
Confidence is important because it's one of those skills that isn't taught in school. Confidence is learned on the STREET.
(Or maybe just by consistently pushing past your comfort zone.)

This episode is geared towards the fellas. (Although I believe there are valuable insights for everyone) Dave has spent the last decade improving himself in the areas of people skills, fitness, and style.

He's gone from shy and reserved to authentically confident and now he helps men in their 20s and 30s do the same.

Highlights:
  • ​04:00 - One quick tactic Dave used to stop overthinking and win over a new friend at a dinner party.
  • 12:40 - How to avoid information overload and take action on improving your people skills
  • 37:00 - The mindset Dave uses to overcome the hesitation of starting conversations.
  • 47:45 - How to think about your style and avoiding the imposter syndrome that can come from changing what you wear.

Dave is the Amazon #1 best-selling author of Ready to Roar: How Shy, Quiet, Self-Doubting Guys Become Strong, Charming, Self-Confident Men and the founder of IrreverentGent.com, a blog dedicated to helping guys build confidence.

His work has been featured in The Good Men Project, Well Built Style and Active Man magazine, among others.

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How To Master Small Talk & Overcome Shyness With Dan Chang

10/4/2016

 
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang (@friendformula) founder of The Friend Formula.

A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about social skills so that he could perform at a high level in his career. 

​He's gone from someone who was too shy to speak up in meetings, to giving presentations to executives. (Dan's small talk tips are great)
Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others. 

In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement. 

If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you.

In this episode you'll learn:
  • 13:55 How to make yourself comfortable before you even open your mouth.
  • 15:50 A simple tip that Dan's boss gave him: You don't have to have a great idea to say something.
  • 30:50 Dan's 3 step framework for mastering small talk

You'll definitely want to grab Dan's free three video mini course on small talk (Including strategies on reducing nervousness) here.
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Marsha Shandur: How To Craft Compelling Stories From A Master Storyteller

9/14/2015

 
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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am super excited to have the delightful Marsha Shandur (@YesYesMarsha) of yesyesmarsha.com.

What makes Marsha delightful? Well for starters, she can tell captivating stories. (Watch the youtube video below for a hilariously terrifying story about SNAKES)

Marsha is a phenomenal storytelling and networking coach, and the official storytelling coach at Portland's World Domination Summit.

She has been featured on the BBC, Forbes, The Art of Charm and The Muse.

In this conversation we talk about how to craft compelling stories, as well as how to avoid common storytelling mistakes. 

If you've ever felt like you can't tell a good story, or people's eye glaze over while you're talking, in this podcast you'll learn:

• The #1 thing to focus on while telling stories. Hint: Tom Cruise (11:20)

• How to edit your stories down, but still keep the essence alive (17:30)

• How to deal with the “spotlight" of storytelling (42:15)

Be sure to check out the secret page Marsha created for BMC readers. (With a secret weapon to help you remember ANYONE'S name) 

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Charisma Expert Felicia Spahr: Group Conversations, Creating Rapport, and Getting Digits

7/21/2015

 
On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr.

Felicia has been featured in INC, Fast Company, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepreneur on Fire, Mind, Body, Green, and many others.

I love this conversation for so many reasons. After listening to this episode you will be able to:

• Craft an amazing introduction (10:00)
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• Focus on the right things during group conversations (15:40)

• Create rapport during one-on-one conversations (38:02)

• Know how and when to exchange contact information (46:20)
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"A good principle to remember is: Don't give people a reason to walk away." - Fel
It's basically a tactical guide to thrive at your next dinner party, conference, or networking event.


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How To Make A Fantastic First Impression (Middle Finger Optional)

3/2/2015

 
Two things today:

1. Story.
2. Video.

Have you ever made a cringe-worthy first impression? 

I've made a few, but I think my wife wins the golden chalice of cringe with this one:

A few years ago she was at her boss' house for a party. ​
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There was a mix of friends, family and co-workers.
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Middle Finger Optional

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How To Conquer Your Inner Fears and Start a Conversation With Anyone

1/28/2015

 
One of the most common social skills questions I get is: 

"How do I start a conversation?!"

It's not rocket science, but it's about as terrifying as being strapped to a rocket.

To answer this question, I brought in an expert: the magnetic Felicia of Instantly Irresistible.

She's the real deal, and she created a video on how to conquer your inner fears and start a conversation with anyone.
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Her gazes have been known to bring puppies back to life.
Also, she has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers. BOOM.

Enter Felicia:


I remember after reading Neil Strauss’s famous book, The Game, I was fascinated by this idea of ‘approach anxiety’. 

It’s typically what a lot of men feel as they are about to approach women -- a tightness in their chest, sweating, and of course, the prominent fear of being rejected.

But what I realized is that ‘approach anxiety’ is not limited to just men. Women feel it, too! And even I experience it myself--and this is what I help people with for a living. When I’m at an event and see a stranger I want to start talking to, my heart starts beating faster, I become self-conscious, and I start to think: “What am I going to SAY?”

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Power Posing: A Cheat Code For Your Social Life (Updated)

7/8/2014

 
What if I told you that I can make you more assertive, confident and comfortable in two minutes? Pretty sweet, huh?

Well, I can't. But you can. (ooh, tell me more!)

There is this awesome technique called "power posing" and you should be doing it EVERY DAY.

It takes two minutes and could change your entire life. Here's the video:
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