Think about the last time you were hard on yourself for something awkward you said or did.
"I can't believe I said THAT. I'm so f**king dumb."
"Why would I just stand there like a piece of driftwood and not say anything?! I hate myself."
Why are we jerks to ourselves sometimes?
Last night I was sitting on my couch watching Bob Ross on Youtube...like you do, and I stumbled across this video by Bob Ross' son Steve.
In this video, Ross gets super pumped about painting some mountains, and he messes up. (Side note: The mountains are still more beautiful that any mountains I've seen in real life.)
I'm so selfishly excited about this episode of Become More Compelling Radio that I can barely contain myself.
My guest Talia Koren (@thetalillama) and I talk about how to reach out to influencers in a way that respects their time and makes it 10x more likely that you'll receive a response.
Talia is an outreach specialist and freelance writer from NYC. Before going off on her own, Talia was a recruiter for contributing writers at Elite Daily and a staff writer herself on the entertainment, news and health teams. When she's not working, she's cooking, working on her meal prep blog, snowboarding and running.
The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life. Learn it and use it. This skill is especially helpful if you want to:
In this episode you'll learn:
12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead.
24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers.
41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS)
51:10 - An incredibly easy way to get busy people on the phone.
Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard media pitches.
Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others.
In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement.
If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you.
In this episode you'll learn:
You'll definitely want to grab Dan's free three video mini course on small talk (Including strategies on reducing nervousness) here.
Over the last few months I’ve received dozens of emails from people who are struggling with two things:
Tell me if these ring true for you:
“I just feel like I’ll be bothering them if I walk up and start talking…”
“What if they all know each other?!”
“I don’t want to have to be LOUD and interrupt people! it’s just not who I am...”
That’s why I created this guide for you, to help you smoothly join a group so that you can…
...meaningfully contribute to group conversations at work without feeling awkward and self conscious.
...Easily make new friends and contacts at a conference.
...feel comfortable and enjoy group conversations at a party.
And on a deeper level:
...have options of who you surround yourself with. Which as it turns out, has a huge influence on success
...feel like you are the kind of person who can thrive in social situations (which will make it more likely that you will thrive even more in group conversations, creating a virtuous cycle)
In this guide you’ll find some of the best strategies for joining and contributing in group conversations.
To create this guide, I pulled from my experience having 90,000 conversations over 11 years...but I knew that wouldn’t be enough.
I also did a LOT of research into what works and what doesn’t.
You don’t have to look in 100 different places and piece together quality, actionable information.
It’s all right here for you.
Let’s swan-dive in…
1:00 PM On a Sunday afternoon, my wife and I arrived at the library, ready to get some work done.
1:02 PM We take the elevator up to the 5th floor, where they have study rooms, periodicals, and the quiet room. The quiet room is designed so that people can work and study in peace.
1:03 PM We settle into the quiet room, we’re the only two people there.
1:03:30 PM Thinking that the room was soundproof, and also wanting to make my wife laugh…I devise a (to me) hilarious plan to play 5 seconds of gangster rap.
1:04 PM I press play. My wife quoted me as whispering “This is what I think of your quiet room.”
Hey, I'm Jeff.
I'll help you supercharge your people skills so that you can have a more fulfilling career,
business & social life.
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