This week, I have an example of the most self sabotaging person you'll ever see.
It's interesting to me how someone could want something SO badly, and at the same time, ensure that they're NOT going to get what they want.
I'm going to share an example of a man who REALLY wants to find happiness in the form of another person to have a meaningful relationship with.
But he's fucking it up royally. Before he even STARTS.
Example: Finding a reason to come up short...
I'm what you would call short, im a 5'5.5/5'6 guy, and i never really thought that my height would be that big a problem when finding girls since i know they are some which are shorter than me, but recently i have found out that even some short girls like a guy to be a specific height and i guess that was a surprise for me since i thought in most cases just being taller would do
For example i saw a girl being 5'0 wanting guys around 5'10 and up others are worse so that just showed me that im at a bigger disadvantage than i thought...
...and for real being short is not easy at all it gets tiring seeing a beautiul girl but her being taller than you which in most cases means i have no chance, and now the number of short ones that i can date get cut in half since some have height specifications...
What are your views in this matter? Is height that big a deal for some?
This poor guy is literally manufacturing limiting beliefs, and generally fucking up his perception of the world. If this is his world view, then he will be a prisoner of it.
I'd love for him to consider the following: What women say they want and what they actually respond to are usually two completely different things. (click to tweet)
(For the record, I'm 5'6")
Picture this: A 5'5' man walks into a bar (he says ouch!...had to say it) and he's dressed well, he's smiling, having interesting conversations with people, he's firmly in HIS reality, and he doesn't apologize through his body language or voice tone for being short.
His name is Tom Cruise.
Love Tom or hate him, he doesn't have a problem meeting women.
"But Jeff, he's a famous actor!"
He's got some MAJOR high-status vibes going on...and you can, too.
What is high status, and how can I get it?
For me having high-status falls into three main categories, If you have these rocking and rolling, you're 80% there:
- Great Body Language, and Voice Tone: Take up some space in the world. Spread out, stop fidgeting, stuttering, or breaking eye contact. Speak slower. Pretend that you have a six foot bubble around you at all times, and whenever anyone enters your sphere, they are now a guest in YOUR reality.
- Great Communication Skills: Be a great listener, be engaged and present in the conversation you're having. Humor is fantastic, just don't laugh at your own jokes. Empathy is your best friend.
- Sense Of Fashion: Know what looks good on you. You're likely wearing an oversized shirt right now. Wherever you go you should be dressed like you meant to leave your house looking good. That means shower/shave, fix your hair. Look like you give a damn.
Here's a handy cheat-sheet from askmen.com.
Lesson for the week: Don't invent new excuses for not meeting the woman of your dreams.
Homework: How can you be more high status in your everyday life so you can overcome whatever BS excuse you've created?
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